Why Winter is So Important
Each Season Has a Unique Message
This is winter’s and it may be the most important…
Edited and Updated December 1st, 2024
By Melissa Borden, Reiki & Manifestation Teacher
“Who you are at your core, is enough.”
This is the main message I get when tapping into the Spirit and Energy of Winter. As an Energy Practitioner, one of my favorite skills is the abilty to connect. Connection can refer to many different things, but right now, I’m referring to connecting with different energies, including nature! Connecting with the seasons, the elements, forests, oceans, and so much more. To learn from them as well as to connect for healing.
When I tap in to Winter’s energy, it has an uplifting, gentle and kind energy. Even though I love winter now, I spent seven winters in a row actively avoiding it! I traveled to live in constant summer temperatures. Looking back… it's no wonder I ended up a little frazzled with my energy towards the end of my travels. Summer is a time of higher energy! Of going, of doing. It can be great, but thanks to the Universal Law of Rhythm, it is so much better when paired with rest. This is where winter comes in.
Now a days, Winter truly is a favorite (or maybe: meditation has pulled me so deep into the moment that since winter is right now, it just seems the favorite? hmm). Either way. I am in awe of it's beauty. It's message, and what it is bringing forward to share with you.
Here’s what I learned from my conversation with winter…
Winter is a time to reconnect with ourselves. Deeply.
And I mean deeply.
It's a time to retreat from the busyness of life, from the external stresses and to check in on how we are really doing.
Winter is giving us space to be still. To allow what isn’t at peace deep within us, to drop away. Winter is the yin season. The rest. The reset. The peaceful oasis.
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You may be thinking... “ok, but how do I *actually* get to that peaceful feeling? My life is way too hectic…”
The first message from Winter is this: Who you are at your core, is enough. The reasons you may not feel enough is due to beliefs picked up from society and life, often as a protective mechanism (hello past truama and pain), that can limit your true self from shining through. Not all beliefs are limiting... we will always have beliefs that shape our lives, this is part of the human experince and it is beautiful!
But winter is about becoming still. Still enough that we are able to sift through what is really true for us, or what is just a limiting belief giving us the false perception that we aren't enough.
What does “not enough” really look like?
Often, a common belief I see many of my clients (and myself in the past) holding is that they are not actually enough. This is a subconscious belief that limits us from knowing and feeling our true value. Which is high. In our everyday lives this could look like insecurity in a relationship because subconsciously we don't believe we are enough to hold our partners attention. Or a fear we might be hurt again, because subconsciously we don’t feel we are enough to be loved in a safe way. Maybe we feel insecure about parenthood because “are we doing ‘enough’ for our child?”. Insecurities or imposter syndrom because “are we actually showing up enough at work or doing well enough to keep our job, be loved, be respected”, etc… and: “are we the best”?
While it's part of our nature to want to be "the best". What this comes down to is simply, are we doing our best? One of my favorite belief balances to use in PSYCH-K Sessions is “I do my best, and my best is good enough” This belief alone lets us put down so much weight and stress that we all unconsciously carry from time to time. We all have things to work though. But showing up the best we can each day, is more than enough. Our current society tends to praise busyness and "doing it all". This leaves us feeling utterly exhausted and burnt out, and, guilty if we do try to rest. Have you felt this way?
But resting is crutial for the equation of how to show up your best self. How to feel enough, to KNOW you’re enough, and to feel genuine peace. We have to slow down and rest, and sift through our energetic clutter* and through our thoughts to get there.
“Our best use of winter is anything that allows you to get to know yourself better. Often this happens easiest through: rest”
Luckily, we have a whole season for this. Winter.
In nature, we see winter as the time where plants go dormant. They rest. Some animals hibernate, if you live in a snowy area everything around you gets insulated in a white beauty while this reset happens. However, since we are not bears—what's the best way we can use winter?
While I love the thought of sleeping for 6 months… our best use of winter is actually anything that simply allows you to get to know yourself better. Often this happens easiest through: rest!
Get aquainted with your deep thoughts, feelings, and perceptions of yourself and the world. You can do this solo through practices like journaling. Start to notice what triggers you on a daily basis and write it out.
Begin with: "what is it about me" that causes me to be triggered by… that driver cutting me off, or my partner leaving his dish on the counter, or my boss dismissing my idea…
What is it about me? What does this remind me of? What feeling does this bring up? When is another earlier time I felt this same feeling? Often it reminds our brain of a past time when we had a similar emotion that felt bad to us, or made us feel: “not enough”. Maybe it reminds you of a time when you were a child and you felt you weren't heard.
Without proper ways to process these emotions as kids (or adults), our body and brain will store these situations as memories. Storing it away for the rest of our life (or until we process it properly). Everytime someone dismisses your idea, etc... it can trigger you to feel the same way again. Wether it was unheard, unloved, or not enough. You may not have been taught to process and feel these emotions. Likely if you are reading this now… these emotions may feel like they are stacking up asking for you to look at them.
It’s ok if during the process we feel mad, annoyed, sad, or overwhelemed. Any and all the feelings are ok. Feel them. And then write.
As we get to the root of these triggers, sometimes the awareness is enough to shift it. Sometimes not.. My main work inside the Manifestation Program and in 1:1 sessions is helping people to shift our of the triggers and into genuine peace so that they can expand their energy (and manifestations) instead of having blocked or constriced energy due to the triggers.. If you want to skip the hard work of deep introspection, you can instead begin to think of new empowering beliefs you’d rather experience in your life. I can help you not only discover which beleifs would benefit you, but we can actively set them in place inside a PSYCH-K session. Forming new belief statements with you and helping you actually switch them, is my favorite thing. And winter is an amazing time for this.
It is never too late. And, why not start now?
Grab a jounral. Look inwards. FEEL all the emotions that arise throughout each day, and process the ones that are uncomfortable.
You are worth doing this work. You are enough. It's time to let go of the parts of you that don't believe it.
You are worth it. Because you are enough. You are enough. You are enough.
Now go rest 💙 and ask the spirit of winter to be with you for some extra support.
What do you feel when you do this?
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*Energetic clutter: All of us pick up emotions and feelings from others and carry it in our energy field. This is partly what I mean by clutter. What isn’t yours. We can have our own “clutter” in the form of anxious thoughts, extra sadness, extra any emotion that is trying to teach us something and we either haven’t learned from it, or if we are unable to let go of the situation/event. This can remain as “clutter” in your feild as well. Clearing your energy field is vital. This can be through Reiki, other energy work, meditation, intentional yin yoga, breathwork. To get a deep rest and reset for your energy field and your core beliefs: Schedule a PSYCH-K Session here. ❤️