Fall like the leaves
Autumn, and the change we don’t want to see.
Why it’s so easy to love change in everything but ourselves...
We love to see autumn in nature. The leaves fall. Things retreat. Plants go dormant and turn inwards. We LOVE it. We travel to see it, we take pictures and post them all over (like me, with the pic of Kimba above). The change of season is a beautiful thing. We know this.
But when changes happens to us, in the form of shedding old parts of ourselves, feeling burned out and having a desire to rest, or even death of a loved one: we may hate it. We might resist the change so much that it creates chaos, anxiety, and irritability in us. Then, when we feel those things, we get further uncomfortable! and so the cycle deepens.
Nature calls us to drop what we are doing, and evaluate where we are. Nature encourages us to grow, change, and shed layers. And when we don’t: nature speaks louder. Or worse… sinks away and leaves us feeling disconnected. Feeling not “whole”. It may leave us thinking a part of us must be missing.
When in reality, it’s just our deep connection and listening to nature that is missing.
We live in society. We see ourselves as “Humans: The main creatures here on earth”. Living our lives, who sometimes go to nature for fun or relaxation.
When in reality, we don’t share the world with nature, we ARE nature. Down to our core we are nature. It’s no surprise our bodies want to follow a natural seasonal pattern just like the earth.
Autumn is a time to pause, watch in awe and gratitude as we shed the old, prepare to rest and reset over winter. So we can start fresh in spring. I know it’s diffucult to actually fully follow this cycle given our jobs and family. And that’s ok.
The message of autum isn’t that we need to abrubtly stop and stare into our souls. The message of autumn is this: We are doing just fine. When things feel hectic or chaotic it’s a loving message that it is in fact ok to slow down. Autumn tells us it’s ok to look into the parts of us that are calling for more love, for more attention, for healing.
The parts that may have gotten a backseat during the busy summer full of play (or busy summer full of stress), come out in autumn for our attention. It’s a natural system built into us for self reflection. If we are carrying extra stress, this represents even more we can let go of. Tuning into nature (aka ourselves… see what I did there) can help us navigate life with less stress. Less chaotic energy. More allowance to slow down, rest, and ALLOW what isn’t serving us to fall away.
“Autumn is a time to pause, watch in awe and gratitude
as we shed the old”
Allow was in caps because sometimes it isn’t about pushing or trying too hard to let go of parts of us that need fall away. Sometimes it’s just being present to it. For example… If we have a locked muscle in our body. Maybe we feel tightness or constriction somewhere. Or maybe we feel anxiety day in and out. How can we be fully present to what we are feeling, without projecting what it may mean. Not worring how long it will last. Just be so present. Feel. and breath. What would it feel like if we tuned into the feeling. If we actually thanked it for being there. If we spoke to it and said: “I hear you. I am resting, thank you and I allow this to drop out”.
There is a reason breathwork is so productive. A reason people are drawn to yoga. Breath is a key way to help us relax and allow what we no longer need, to drop away (looking at you stress and trauma).
Breath. Feel. Rest. Allow for it to shift out. Allow for the leaves to naturally fall.
Imagine how silly it would be if we went to the trees and started pulling off the leaves before they were ready. Picture your neighbor, on a ladder, plucking off each leaf before it wanted to fall? Silly. Even sillier… once they fall, resisting it and trying to glue them back on! Imagine spending so much effort to keep the leaves on, to try to hang on to what was.
We don’t need to go digging deep into our lives to look for problems, such as picking off the leaves before they are ready. Just as we don’t need to try to stay in a place when it’s no longer serving us. We don’t need to glue back on the leaves and pretend we are ok… when in fact it would feel so much better to shed a layer. To let go. Maybe even to be vulnerable and seen while letting go.
What would that feel like? If you are reading this, I challenge you the next time you feel a discomfort: Instead of pushing it down, pretending it’s not there, or trying to think a positive thought* to get past it I challenge you to feel it. To be present with it. To take a deep breath. To journal for 5 minutes what this feeling feels like, what is it trying to say to you? Then. The best part. Take 5 (or 50) minutes to just REST and be with whatever discomfort is left after writing. Allow the leaves to fall.
Allow yourself to rest and reset. To let go of what isn’t serving you so you can prepare to show up even better in the next season of life.
Autumn is a reminder you are beautiful. Even in your pain, even through change. Even while navigating death. You are perfect in each moment and it is safe and ok to let go of what we don’t need. So that we can make space for what we do need.
What are you letting go of?
What are you making space for?
Let me know in the comments or through a private message.
Wishing you a beautiful autumn and season of change!!
*Ps. To clarify: sometimes it is good to think positive thoughts and this CAN change the way we think and feel. But during autumn when it is more natural for us to be experiencing disruptions, practice distinguishing between: “is this a belief that I have worked on switching? Ok let me remind myself with a positve thought.” -Or- “is this genuinely a difficult moment for me, and when I think the positive thought it feel like my insides are crumbling…” this is when we sit with it, and allow it to shift through us and out. If you’d like support in this.. reach out.
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I hope this post helped you to love and appreciate the change in yourself, and in life, a little more. Comment below and share what came up for you.